Friday, July 18, 2014

Kindle Instant Intimacy and Passion with the One You Love

Photo: Philip Edmondson, Creative Commons, cc license
He catches me in the bottom stairwell, pulling me close.

And we all have this, the need to be seen, pursued.

He wraps his arms around my waist, drawing me to him, and I lean against his brown t-shirt, resting on his chest and shoulders, breathing in deeply.

"I should go," I murmur after a moment, hearing voices and feet running around on the floor above us.

His arms hold me still, and we linger.

He will be gone soon with plans until late at night, I realize, and so I put aside my To-Do List, my sense of obligation to the people upstairs, and my rushing.

There is no other place I need to be right now, and why step away from this? 

We stand in a silent stairwell, hugging and kissing, while noises clatter on upstairs. In a moment or two life continues, and we smile and step away, joining the conversations and commotion upstairs.

Romance and intimacy can be kindled in glances, in stolen kisses, in lingered hugs good bye. I can easily forget and think that passion requires grand gestures or weekends away at bed and breakfast nooks. While date nights are valuable to every marriage, the smaller, day to day moments are really what create closeness and bonding.

Want to kindle a flame in your relationship? Stop what you're doing the next time your spouse enters the room, stride over to him or her, and hug for an extended period of time. You know that moment when we normally assume a hug is over and we pull away? Resist. Stay longer, lean against them, and breathe in their scent.

He was right, my man.

Linger, breathe, and feel the melting start.


8 comments:

Betty Draper said...

It takes so little to say I love you, a hug, a hand over their hand, a couple words such as, "you smell good, you look nice, etc. Great reminder Jennifer...

beingwoven.org said...

Oh, yes, Jennifer, and how easily I forget the beauty in these precious gestures, embraces, loving moments.
Thanks for reminding me.
~ linda

Floyd said...

That's a good call, one I need to be reminded of. We tend to take so much for granted... especially the best gifts that are so close to us.

Ceil said...

Hi Jennifer! What a sweet moment! And I know what you mean by thinking the hug is over. I'm all for lingering a bit!

Have a peaceful night,
Ceil

Jennifer Dougan said...

Betty,

That's so true, huh, that the little things are powerful. Mmm, smells are meaningful to me too.

Nice to talk,
Jennifer Dougan
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Linda @ beingwoven,

My pleasure. :) Nice to have you here. I'm trying to cultivate those more and more too.

Jennifer Dougan
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Floyd,

"The best gifts that are so close to us..." yep, and easy to take for granted. I'm working at that too.

Jennifer Dougan
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Thank you, Ceil. Those moments are so special and lead to greater closeness, huh? :)

May you and your family have a grace-filled weekend.

Jennifer Dougan
www.jenniferdougan.com