Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Camp David and a Danish


In an espresso-steaming coffee shop, all the tables are crowded. There are no vacancies except at the tall table in the corner. Three of us stagger ourselves respectfully amidst five close-proximity chairs, wielding our bags and books into puzzle-like-precision placements.

A cheese danish tantalizes me from a wrapped paper bag, while Komodo Dragon coffee and cream scald my throat deliciously. Warmth steals through my hand and body. The danish waits, however, while I resolve a relationship issue.

Tapping thumbs into a red and black cell phone, I text, "Hi, love, sorry. I did it right today when I worked at not criticizing. I messed up when... Will you forgive me?"

He responds gently and we start anew. With a click, the screen is cleared, and I proceed to my danish and books, feeling peaceful and relaxed.

Resentments in relationships can accumulate too easily, building up walls, brick by brick. In this new season of relationship, we're striving to stay soft-hearted, to be quick to apologize, and quick to forgive.

Do you have someone you need to talk to today? Leave the coffee, the danish, and grab a phone or a pen.

Linking with Duane at Scribing the Journey and Emily of Imperfect Prose

18 comments:

Betty said...

Not today but a few days ago I had to ask my husband forgiveness for my nasty attitude. Hard to enjoy anything when the acid of resentment stirring in the stomach. Good post Jennifer.

Cheryl Barker said...

Quick to apologize, quick to forgive -- the only way to go. Great advice, Jennifer.

Jennifer Dougan said...

Hi Betty,

An acid that is quickly distinguished with words and a right spirit, huh? Thanks for your honesty here too.

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Hi Cheryl,

Thanks for stopping in.

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

Nanette said...

Great post and encouraging - thinking of someone right now that I have this past week apologized to and made amends. Feels so much better

Jennifer Dougan said...

Hi Nanette,

The effort to go to them and make amends feels so much better, doesn't it? Smiling and nodding here with you. Thanks.

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

LOLITA said...

Betty's acid in the stomach is so resonant. It easily corrodes relationship if not dealt in love.

Often the acid makes holes in your own heart while destroying peace and harmony.

Such a good post, Jen. A choice and a good resolve will sail marriage boats.

The softer side is desirable, Jen. So much!

starla said...

oh yes..taking care of hurts and offenses quickly. This is what I have to do or my body tenses up and before I know it I need the chiropractor. :0)

Kristin Bridgman said...

I love your writing! I went to your other story that was highlighted. Been there, done that;) After 20+ years of marriage, my husband and I began praying side by side on bended knee each night. I love it! ( we have been married for 31 years now)Praying together stops the inside grumblings:)
Thank you for coming by my place. It is nice to meet you~

Linda said...

Thanks so much for visiting Jennifer. It's nice to meet you!
These are very wise words - written beautifully.

Brandee Shafer said...

Yes. We're working hard in these places. Our counselor Adam, he says we've been putting things behind us but not really: they've been accumulating like so many rocks in a backpack. Marriage is hard. This is my second. I want it to be my last.

Floyd said...

It's crazy sometimes how difficult apologizing can be. Humility in any situation brings peace when offered with the heart of God. It is an amazing gift to give others as well as ourselves. It always runs counter to what the world teaches.

Love the description of that coffee shop... sounds like a great place to write - after the text of humility of course...

Jennifer Dougan said...

Thanks, Lolita.

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Starla,

Yes.... thank you for stopping by.

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Kristin,

Thanks for stopping by, and for your warm writing. Congratulations on 31 years of marriage! We are at almost 19 years, and sat across each other from sushi today.

Have a great week,
Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Thank you, Linda. Thanks for stopping by.

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Brandee, I am honored by your honesty and wisdom here. Thank you. It is hard some days, and yet worth it too, huh? I'm rooting for you, and for all of us!

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com

Jennifer Dougan said...

Hi Floyd,

I agree, and yes, the coffee shop is a weekly Tuesday treat for me to study, journal, write and learn. Do you have a spot like that too? Normally they have more tables free though. :)

Jennifer
www.jenniferdougan.com